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Why Are We So Hard on Ourselves?

Updated: May 16, 2022

Salutations and welcome to another session of WWBS or What Would Bangs Say? Today's question is from follower - Amanda Jayne Ayee. "Why are we so harsh on ourselves?"


Great question, Amanda! This is something many people struggle with. Especially my human. I believe this is not a "One size fits all" question as there are many possible reasons people do this. Let's go over a few.

1) Protection/Low self-esteem

My human has a bad habit of this one. They fear rejection and getting hurt. When it comes to criticism, they like to "beat them to the punch" as you might call it. As an example, if human asks for feedback on something and she sees a flaw first, she'll point it out. That way, it won't hurt or surprise her if the other person sees it. She has this same mentality with bullies as well... It's very unhealthy. But moving on -

2) Comparing ourselves to others


This is another thing my human does often. It's natural for people to compare themselves to others from time to time.


Doing it constantly while using it to determine your worth, however, is unhealthy. An example of an unhealthy comparison - "She's better looking than I am so I must be ugly".


Y'know, people like to compare me to a lot of people too. Even Hitler! (Come on, I'm SO much cuter than him.


3) High Standards/Unrealistic Expectations


This is the final reason some people are so hard on themselves.


An example of this - Sharing something online and expecting it to get one million views overnight. It rarely works like that. I think if my human ever got one million views on anything, they wouldn't believe it's real life.


I hope this helped you better understand why humans can be so harsh on themselves. As a cat, I know better, of course. Thank you so much for the question, Amanda! We appreciated hearing from you. Stay well and shine bright, starlights!


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linda
19 avr. 2022

Wise words from Miss Bangs. Made so much easier by seeing her lovely face. Shine on Miss Bangs we are all devoted starlight here. 🌟

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Kris Kin
Kris Kin
25 avr. 2022
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Thanks so much, we appreciate the support! 💖

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patepies
19 avr. 2022

On point!! High expectations are fine if within that expectation you can reach it, I, for example think I sing like a rock star. It hurts when people cringe but they are right and it is ok for me to feel deflatef. I can not do everything .Had long as Hooman does the best of Hooman’s ability. No contest!

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Kris Kin
Kris Kin
25 avr. 2022
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Thanks and agreed! We bet your singing is great! 😺

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Stephanie Hassett
Stephanie Hassett
19 avr. 2022

Thank you, Miss Bangs and Hooman for the great advice but that leads me to a question. Knowing we should love ourselves is step one but HOW do we start to love ourselves?

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Kris Kin
Kris Kin
25 avr. 2022
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You're very welcome and good question! Hooman and I will use this question in a future blog post. 😺 Would you like us to mention/credit you?

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cattitudeone
cattitudeone
18 avr. 2022

Great advice. Love YOURSELF!!

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Kris Kin
Kris Kin
25 avr. 2022
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Thanks! 💖

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janicerae1962
18 avr. 2022

Wonderful! I’m so happy to see your page! Beautiful as always Miss Bangs!

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Kris Kin
Kris Kin
25 avr. 2022
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Thanks so much, glad you like it! 😸

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